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coleytangerina:

laranitanz:

Wow, just wow. Libra “gets girls”. So long as said “girls” have a vagina and menstruate. So, you know, not those ridiculous trans women who think they are real women when we all know they’re not. What a load of mean-spirited, offensive, transphobic crap. Might be a good time for me to buy that Mooncup. Fuck you, Libra.

I’m so glad I have a mooncup so asshole companies like these don’t get my money.

I can’t get over that this isn’t ‘woman = period’ ignorance like I thought it might be when I saw that Libra had posted something offensive (I half expected some “Your PERIOD is your MARK OF WOMENHOOD” cissentric/trans erasure crap that I’ve seen before), this is actively pitting cis women against trans women for cheap laughs.

I’m on the jab at the mo, so these wankers aren’t getting my money either thank Gods, but … HOLY FUCKING SHIT.

attentioninconsistency:

But isn’t punishment and discipline a good way to teach kids a lesson? Not so, according to Alfie Kohn, author of Unconditional Parenting and a host of other books on discipline and education. “To punish or discipline a child is to deliberately make a child feel bad in the hopes that this will have a positive result,” says Kohn. “But all that punishment can ever buy you is temporary compliance, and at a very high cost. The real lesson it teaches is about power: Those with more of it can coerce those with less of it to do whatever they demand. It makes kids more self-centered, less concerned about the impact of their actions on others… . No wonder we have to discipline a child over and over: The problem isn’t with the child; it’s with the whole idea of punishment.”

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This paragraph is so amazing I could cry. It perfectly sums up my thoughts, feelings and opinions toward discipline. I also feel that is another reason the justice system in this country NEEDS a major makeover. Prison is temporary compliance at a very high cost.

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midwestmountainmama:

notyourkinddear:

fresafresca:

I read this defense of Hugo Schwyzer by Clarisse Thorne over at Role/Reboot, and what strikes me most, is her general indignation that people don’t trust him.  The post struck me as scoldy and high-handed and it’s unfortunate because I don’t think she is making a distinction between people that may have threatened violence towards her or Feministe (don’t know if that happened, but that would be awful if something that extreme happened) and between the people that had valid reasons for distrusting Hugo. Not everyone who disagreed with Hugo and Clarisse’s decision to interview him were being abusive. In fact in the comments for that original post, I don’t think anyone was being abusive. I’m not privy to the Feministe inbox, I don’t know the e-mails they decided not to publish, I don’t know if communication “behind the scenes” was threatening.  But I do know that people in the comments had valid counterarguments for what was presented, and I think these people were treated dismissively by Clarisse in general.

Something else stood out to me, cause it felt a little off. She mentioned in her Hugo defense on how she “rarely” has found feminists writing about the prison industrial complex, and I just thought this didn’t seem right to me.  I haven’t spent much time reading feminist/womanist works but I know that here on tumblr, I see occasional posts on my dash by both WOC feminists and WOC womanists about the prison industrial complex. I did a five minute Google search and found out that Angela Davis has written about prison from a feminist perspective and I found this post about prison over at Crunk Feminist Collective which contained the following paragraph:

“We … want our readers to know that we understand the prison industrial complex as a social problem that occurs at the intersections of race, gender, and class, sexuality and ability. It is therefore a feminist issue.”

Clarisse didn’t mention any of the above when she talked about the “rare” feminist prison industrial complex writer. And ya know, what I found in five minutes of Google searching is not exhaustive or in-depth at all! It just didn’t sit right with me.

(edit: I just noticed that Clarisse reposted her Role/Reboot defense at Feministe and the comments are preemptively entirely closed for that post. It’s amazing to me that her need to defend Hugo is so strong, she is not willing to hear dissent AT ALL now. Wow.)

Fuck Feministe. For real, this whole “no one else is talking about…!” shit that white *Feminists do is so much bullshit. Angela Davis has a LONG history of talking about the prison industrial complex. As does Andrea Smith. And Victoria Law. And you know, “just bloggers” like BFP and so many others. But you know what these people all have in common? THEY ARE WOC. And Clarisse sure as hell can’t acknowledge that WOC got a jump on her, right? WOC, or even MOC, can’t possibly be the experts on this matter. But damn, it’s Feministe. They KNOW they are completely full of shit, but folks keep reading them and supporting them so they can say whatever they want and never have to take responsibility.

ETA: Also, this? “Because of Hugo’s history, a lot of people really don’t like him.”

Fuck no. A lot of people don’t like Hugo because he is presently a self-righteous racist prick from hell who continues to be a sexist pig while making his living/name off of talking about gender. Has nothing to do with the power of redemption and change and a sordid far-gone-past.

i just read the post from clarisse, and found it so offensive i could hardly speak. first of all, as notyourkinddear notes, feminists of color have been at the fucking forefront of naming prison industrial complex as being inherently problematic. they’ve *also* been at the forefront of finding *solutions* to the problem of depending on the the prison industrial complex to solve domestic violence or rape. incite! women of color against violence and critical resistance specifically have done amazing work—and incite! has published or been intimately connected to the publication of various work questioning and building on restorative/transformative justice in context of intimate partner abuse. namely: the revolution starts at home. which oh, wasn’t promoted on any of the big feminist blogs—but hugo’s work was.

and none of this gets into the work that indigenous feminists have done, chicana feminists, latina feminists, black feminists, immigrant feminists, sex worker feminists, disabled feminists, etc etc etc have done around the prison industrial complex—which we’ve *had* to because so much of our lives intersect on a *daily* bases with prison pipelines and paramilitary type presence of police in our barrios and hoods.

but *F*eminism builds relationships with people who can *promote* them—who can *mentor* them into positions where they utilize promotion. this man, who has had a fucked up history with several women of color online, who has a fucked up history towards women including attempted murder and abuse, *has power* to promote—and we don’t.

I just….i believe in redemption. I believe people can change. I believe that with all my heart as a person who has fucked things up and changed and as a person who has been wronged. I promote the idea of transformation in my blogging constantly.

BUT. you don’t get to *erase* the work that women of color done to build a way to make a relationship with a white man *make sense*. if you want him to promote your work. fine. says so. if you genuinelly like him and think he’s changed—fine. don’t expect others to trust him because you do. but just fucking say it, either way. do NOT sit there and go Oh, there is no feminist discussion on transformation and prison industrial complex and abuse and violence and so I *need to build a relationship with this man* —it’s me continuing to do good feminist work!

No. you don’t get to erase us so that you can make sense of this relationship. you just don’t. not after everything he did to women of color bloggers who tried to make our work visible. you just don’t.

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midwestmountainmama:

remember that time when jessica yee’s book just came out and somebody (i don’t remember if it was yee or latoya or some unrelated blogger—i think it might’ve actually been a white woman, just not sure) asked why no big feminist blog had done a write up or otherwise even mentioned her book. and the wrath of feminist jesus came down—“fill the space” and “she should’ve picked a better publisher” and “why isn’t this listed on amazon?’ etc etc etc. the steely gaze turned so hard on yee, i’m surprised she didn’t burst into flames.

but HUGO—on the other hand—gets links without asking for them, promotion, interviews, and *protection*. comments shut down. reprimands. he’s *changed*. assurances. protection. feminist based protection.

the rest of us see all this. we see the choice being made.

we see.

blackamazon:

I usually do year end recaps and well this past week has been a doozy so lets go. I ask if you reblogged anything I said about Hugo Schwyzer/Seal Press/Feministe/Feministing/or the current paper thing you reblog this to honor my desire to at least be equally distributed as a writer as I am as an object of study

I have to let you in loved ones on a secret.

I do a lot of this ” Blackamazon” shit, as a deliberate “put off”. I am for the most part and my decent GPA at an Ivy League school proves it.

Reasonably well versed in academic jargon, the veener of class niceties and complex critical and analytical thinking.

In fact when I started this blog I was shoulder deep in that kind of self editing, continual filtering process that comes with being at the kind of intersection that being so insituated , while being BELOW poverty line poor, of color and neuro-atypical can produce.

The point of ” Having Read The Fine Print” was not further my academic, journalistic, or artistic careers one ( I have decent personal histories all) but to use the skills I acquired in what was both an academic heaven and often a person hell , in ways that applied to MY life, neuro-processes and personal history .

AFTER A SIGNIFICANT PERSONAL TRAUMA.

after a life of the more regular traumas inflicted on a perosn with multiple marginal identities.

And , silly me, after hearing that this new fangled blogosphere was producing work specifically around young women and political action with “new” ideas getting into the WORK of that.

That was pretty much exactly 5 years ago.

And let me tell you what I resent more THAN ANYTHING else about this Paper/Schwyzer/Slutwalk/International Women’s Day / OWS clusterbomb of a year in blogging online.

The fact that for almost ALL of it , the engaging parties are reaching back anywhere from two to three years into my personal life , while saying with completely straight faces , they are the agents of ” progress/learning/or uplift”

I personally have only marginally believed that blogging/social media would ” change the world” . I have believed that teh ability for marginalized and scattered peoples to be able to perform the rituals and actions of self care, community building, humor,information sharing , at close to real time over extended boundaries would

ENABLE feelings of strength, camraderie, and self determination AS well as speed organizing, response and support in ways that COULD LEAD to changes as well as being

PERFECTLY SUFFICIENT ON THEIR OWN due to the revolutionary nature ( as a CONTINUAL process of reimagining the self and the constructs of politics ,government, and other paradigms)

of these populations having new ( mostly) unhindered and regulated access to each other.

Of which I AM A MEMBER and I wanted to participate as such and not as a high faluting “academic/talking head”

Which leads to me eschewing things like editing, eliminating corrections of my AAVE and Guyanese Creolese, swearing, and indulging in contra-indicative demands for transparency during key community buildings .

That was an interesting decision , even more so five years later

Next UP- Why this decision has cost/gained/allowed me to observer

maxadlerisabamf:

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